Praise from Young Women & Girls

Dr. Carla and HOTGIRLS members and graduates

Praise from Dr. Carla’s Keynotes, Workshops & Speaking Engagements

Dr. Carla was the most helpful person at the Girl Scout Leadership Institute Conference and she inspired me even more to follow my dream of becoming an adolescent psychologist. – Rachel, Reading, PA

Dr. Carla Stokes: You are a great inspiration to all young females. I thank you for taking your time to speak to us. – Eve’s Circle Conference Participant, Montgomery, AL

I had an enjoyable time. I cried on probably everything you said. Thank U ☺ Love, Sharon, Montgomery, AL

I really feel you on what you were saying. I’ve been talking to God about it. It is really heart breaking to see women so degraded. God has really blessed you with a word and I’m grateful to see that someone is teaching. Thank you! – Zakiya

I loved it. It was one of the FUNNIEST workshops I have ever been to. It wasn’t one of those sit down adult kinds. We actually got up and had fun. – Destiny

I liked all of the activities that we did tonight!!! It helped me to become more open! – Chasity

It was a good eye-opener for young girls. 

I really enjoyed myself. I learned that girls are not what they seem 2 be and also don’t judge people. – Tamia

I enjoyed this workshop and it was helpful to me and others. 

I thought this was a good time. I feel happy. I am sick with a cold, but I feel a lot better! – Victoria

I liked everything. It really lifted my spirit. – Alex

I truly enjoyed every aspect of the workshop. I learned a lot about self-worth and believing in myself…I realized that I need to follow my dreams and passions. – DeLandria

The discussion was great! We were able to discuss major issues in an educated manner. – Courtney

She allowed me to push myself to share. – Erin

She was confident, inspirational, wonderful….and so self-assured in a positive way. – Kelsi

I loved the workshop. Best workshop of all of the cotillion. I really liked the calm time where we envisioned our future. – Jeanetta

I really enjoyed Dr. Carla, the workshop put me back in touch with myself. – Whitley

She was very real and her topics made me think. – Alexaundra

She really brought out the realness of the situation. I really liked it. – Brianna

The exercise at the end really touched me. – Olivia

I loved the fact that we got to be real and focus on the positives of being a strong, powerful, confident girl. – Lauren

Praise from Young Women & Girls Dr. Carla Has Mentored and/or Coached

Dr. Carla is one of the few women that I can genuinely look up to and talk to about my innermost problems. She comes from a place of openness and guidance as opposed to telling me what’s right and wrong. She covers all aspects of young women’s health. She covers both physical and emotional health like self-esteem. She doesn’t talk to us like we’re little kids; more like an older sister. – Aria

Over the years I’ve been able to talk to Dr. Carla about my issues without feeling bad about what I was going through. She talks with me, not at me and gives me great advice that I can relate to everyday life. - Jakia

Dr. Stokes is not only the founder of H.O.T.G.I.R.L.S., Inc., but she is an influential activist in the African American community. Her passion has no limits and transcends to others around her. She remains consistent and committed to the mission of the organization that focuses on touching the lives of black women and girls. With her experience and creativity, she awakes the consciousness of young women and girls to issues that affect us directly every day. I personally have gained a tremendous amount of knowledge from Dr. Stokes and her influence on the lives of young women is admirable. – Salimah

Dr. Carla is an educator, activist, and mentor I’ve come to admire during my three years working with HOTGIRLS. She is open and honest with every girl she works with and educates others without being condescending. Dr. Carla reaches young women by being a positive role model and creating friendships with the girls she works with. Her tireless work and dedication to improve the lives of young black women is truly inspirational. – Vannessa

YOU make HOTGIRLS what it is Dr. Carla. When I first started coming to HOTGIRLS I still called myself a dyme, or ya ride or die chick, your down a** girl and stuff like that, but you showed us how to get attention in positive ways. You showed us just to tell someone you’re cute doesn’t mean you have to say ‘I’m a dyme’… you can have on clothes and just say I’m beautiful and still get your point across. The environment that we’re in with you and the girls [in the program] and the vibe is another great thing. I know all the girls including myself feel like we can talk to you about anything and you’ll listen and we talk about this all the time like how we look at you as our sister and not just a teacher or mentor. Basically saying after going to HOTGIRLS we get this feeling like ‘I’m with my big sister on this one I want people to respect me and my feelings.’ You’re not just another adult telling us what to do. – Amber

As an educator, professional, and mentor, Dr. Carla has the best interests of girls at heart. Through her intimate relationships with teens and young girls, they are comfortable talking and sharing their concerns with her. She easily relates to them and shares her own personal stories as a young girl to educate and let girls know that they are not alone in their trials that they are faced with growing up as young African-American women. It was an honor interning under her and learning from her knowledge and experiences. – Yasin

Carla’s work with girls is groundbreaking and revolutionary. She uses techniques that young girls are interested in, in order to teach them about issues affecting their communities. – Brittany

In 2004, I came into contact with a big sister, friend, and mentor named Dr. Carla. She taught me how to gain respect from males and that in order to get respect, you have to give respect. By learning so much information from the meetings, I must say that I admire her for having the courage to create HOTGIRLS. I really enjoyed the events and time that we spent together with other teens. Thank you Dr. Carla for being my role model. – Sha-Quita

Dr. Carla is someone who you can really trust and look up to. She is someone who I can go and talk to about any of my problems whether it’s a boyfriend or even something deeper. She is a great motivator. She is someone who I can call my big sister. I know she won’t judge me about any problem I may have in my life. – Sesyli

Over the past couple of years I have come to know Carla as a down to earth and caring role model for young women and teens, including myself. She is extremely insightful about issues pertaining to African American women and girls and I have learned an immense amount from working with her. I have seen Carla work with and mentor other young women besides myself and she is able to relate to the issues they face without judgment. HOTGIRLS is her vision, and she is able to keep this vision regardless of the obstacles she may face. Ever since I started working with HOTGIRLS, I have looked up to Carla, and she has never disappointed me. – Kristina

Dr. Carla is an excellent role model and mentor for girls of all ages. She is able to teach teenage girls about self-esteem and safer sex practices by relating to them as an older sister or cool aunt instead of as a teacher. I know Dr. Carla will have a huge and very positive impact on a very significant number of teenage girls. - Juliana

Dr. Carla has always been there for me no matter what my problem was. If you ask her anything she will try to her best to answer it with her true heart, no lies, no matter if her outlook may not be what u want to hear. When I met Dr. Carla in 2007 there was just something about the glow she had around her that made me feel that I would be real cool with her for a very long time. She is one of those grown ups that really does care about what you have to say and not let it go in one ear and out the other. As a teen girl I was blessed to meet someone who spoke out about the things teen girls go through and are too scared to say anything about it because of what others may say about them. If the world had more people like Dr. Carla for teens around people would grow up to be much better people and [negative] things in black America would not be going on. So I think that anyone would be proud to say that I am a part of HOTGIRLS and that I know Dr. Carla. – Alethia

Dr. Carla goes beyond the scope of a mentor. I remember going to the HOTGIRLS sessions when I was 16 and feeling a sense of empowerment. Dr. Carla is one of the few adults that I know who can converse with youth on their level. She is very honest, caring and inspirational. When my step-father passed away, Dr. Carla sent me a care package enclosed with a book and a journal on how to deal with a loss of a parent. I didn’t expect anything from her yet those two gifts helped me deal with my loss. She truly cares about our youth and is so selfless in doing so. I’ll never forget how Dr. Carla would pick us up in her car, help us design the (teen) summits, and be such a good friend and fellow black woman that I can admire and look up to. She has a good heart and she shows her dedication each day when she goes into the community to educate. - Ja’Celynn

Dr. Carla Stokes is a remarkable, genuine, and down to earth person who is truly inspiring. For the three years that I have known her I have witnessed the many ways she has demonstrated her passion and dedication for helping young women and girls, and I admire her strength and perseverance to successfully fulfill her mission. What I love the most about her is her kind heart, humble spirit, and the fact that she is so easy to talk to. I remember many times when I sought her out for advice or council and she listened, and actively worked with me towards finding a solution. With her help I was able to overcome many obstacles in my life and now I am actively pursuing my goals with a positive attitude. She has motivated me to make each day a better one by taking it one step at a time, and I truly appreciate her for that because whenever you ask her for something, she is the type of person who is genuinely concerned and will go out of her way to help you. Many of these qualities carry over into her work with young women and girls because I have witnessed how so many young girls feel so comfortable opening up to her because she is so open-minded and honest, and she is not one to judge. She is a positive role model to many and I feel so fortunate to have gained her as my mentor. – Daphne

When thinking of Dr. Carla, one word comes to mind, Superwoman!! I say this because she is truly an amazing woman. She’s an intelligent black woman with a loving and helpful heart. She has dedicated herself and her life to helping young ladies and women conduct healthy and prosperous lifestyles. Dr. Carla has unknowingly inspired me to strive for the best in life. She has exposed me to various ways in which we as women contribute to negative stereotypes. With the help of Dr. Carla I have the necessary materials to evolve into a magnificent woman who commands the utmost respect. Dr. Carla is one of the most positive and influential women in my life. – Sakeissa

Dr. Carla is a genuine person. She gives a warm impression and does not judge others for their situations. She is understanding and acknowledges the challenges we all face as young black women. Her compassion is what allows her to give guidance and advice as a mentor and not a disappointed parent. The things that she is most passionate about directly relate to promoting health, awareness, and growth for young women despite stereotypes and social barriers. – Katie

Dr. Carla Stokes is one of the most genuine and inspiring women that I have ever met. Her passion for helping young girls changed my outlook on what service is–I know now what it should be. She puts the welfare of the young girls first and it manifests itself in everything that she does. I’ve seen how many young girls she has touched during the three years that I have volunteered with HOTGIRLS. Her workshops are embracing and open; she treats everyone with kindness and respect and by her interaction, it is clear how important we are…how much concern she has. Dr. Carla is an amazing role model and friend and I can truly say that my name is among the list of young women that she has influenced because she has definitely touched me. – Ashanda

Dr. Carla has truly been an inspiration in my life and the lives of many young girls. Dr. Carla’s dedication to her work with teenage girls has inspired me to become committed to serving my community. I am most impressed with her ability to relate to and understand young girls, and the problems they are facing in everyday life. Through HOTGIRLS, Dr. Carla has created a space in which young girls can share they’re stories, learn about themselves inside and out, and grow into young women. - Ashley

Dr. Carla is the epitome of womanhood. She is a strong and educated Black woman and as such is the perfect role model for other young women and girls. Her passion for her work is evident in every word she speaks and every action she performs. Dr. Carla has a nurturing spirit that is important to have when educating young girls on such sensitive topics. – Maria

Dr. Carla was the first young professional to influence my life. Meeting her and joining HOTGIRLS when I was 16 played a crucial part in developing me into the woman I have become. At such a young age I was able to address issues affecting teens that help me consciously live my life. Dr. Carla is young enough to talk with us on a level that we would understand but old enough to have experienced life in a way that enables her to mold minds and lead young girls in the right path. She exemplifies strength, intelligence and a passion for impacting the lives of young women everywhere. Dr. Carla leads by example as a positive role model and advocate for positive living environments and healthy lifestyles. – Teni-Ola

Dr. Carla Stokes is truly one of a kind. She possesses the ideals of professionalism and has perfected her mentoring capabilities over a span of more than 15 years through her involvement with H.O.T.G.I.R.L.S., the Young Women’s Leadership Council at Spelman College, and various other service activities across America. I met Carla during the early part of my sophomore year at Spelman College, and I was blown away by how much she had accomplished at her young age. Eager to please who she is serving, Carla makes you feel like your opportunities in life are limitless, and with persistence and hard work, you will accomplish your goals. I looked to Carla as a mentor throughout my years at Spelman because she was a Spelman alumna working hard in the streets trying to encourage, motivate, and educate Atlanta’s teen girls on topics that have been affecting African American girls and women forever. She lets all who she is involved with know that their lives, and more importantly their futures, mean something to her, and that is what I call a role model. Inviting, funny, and strong, Carla was the big sister I never had. – Diana

Working with Dr. Carla has been REAL! We tackle REAL issues that REAL girls face. Today’s society often overlooks conditions in the black community and fails to acknowledge that all girls do not have the same experiences. Dr. Carla brings the obstacles girls of color face to the forefront and tackles them head on. – Bianca

Dr. Carla Stokes serves as a role model for young girls with a genuine desire to see them succeed and excel. Her kindhearted nature creates a safe haven for people to be open and honest, without the burden of feeling judged. Not only have I viewed her positive impact on young girls, but she has also truly touched my life. She has inspired me to become a better individual, and to use my talents to aid others. Her unique ability to produce this snowball affect has been for the betterment of youth and the communities in which they live. And for that I am forever grateful. – Dawn

Dr. Carla has opened my eyes to the struggle that young black women face day to day by putting those struggles into a perspective that one doesn’t often care to look at because the truth may be too hurtful. I’ve only been involved with HOTGIRLS for a year, but it was more than long enough for me to see the passion that Dr. Carla possesses to help with the advancement of young black women. She has allowed me to realize that my life is not complete unless I am helping young girls grow into the young, beautiful women that they are destined to be. I know what it’s like to live in low-income housing. I know what it’s like to feel like there is no hope and this program has allowed me to realize that I have gone through my personal experiences not only to make me stronger, but to help those who have come up just like me. – Mandisa

In a world where there aren’t many outlets reaching out to African American girls, Carla Stokes created an organization where girls can learn more about themselves in a positive environment. A strong and determined woman, Carla Stokes’ work with young women is phenomenal. As a young woman enrolled at Howard University, knowing that there are big sisters out there willing to help not only myself, but other young women is amazing. – Kenya

Dr. Carla Stokes is an exceptional woman. She is truly gifted when it comes to working and interacting with girls. She is highly educated and has much to offer young girls looking for guidance. She is a terrific role model and a great asset to have in one’s life. I am truly grateful for the knowledge and wisdom she has imparted upon me in the 2 1/2 years that I have known her. – Quanteshia

YOUR ARTICLE WAS GREAT AND SUPER TRUE. I didn’t get bored while reading it. I read the whole thing. The stuff you said about what girls call themselves, I’m not even gonna lie. I used to call myself those things until I got in HOTGIRLS. You know my email address used to be ‘dyme diva’. – Amber